Lets see, What exactly happens when we get frustrated or angry with something or someone...
1) We have a plan...
- Oh yeah... we have a plan and we want our plan to go EXACTLY the way we want it to... And not just in the outcome,...we want the process to go EXACTLY the way we planned it. In a way, I guess having a plan gives us a sense of control. "We have my map and if we follow the map I made, we will be okay and everything will go smooth." The only problem is that your map may not be an accurate map! Someone else might have a better map, with more information, more accurate scales, and a clearer landscape. What ends up happening is that either you let that person read and use their map,...or you use your own (not considering the other), and you see just how wrong your map was...
2) Things don't go according to plan...
- More often then not, things don't go your way. When that happens, we feel like we have lost control of the situation. Our plan isn't working the way we wanted it to, therefore, we don't know if the outcome will be what we wanted either. We actual get afraid, ...we fear that things will get too out of control and we fear that things wont work out at all. So, we're left again with two options: We either (1) Let things run their course or (2) Try to fix what is happening to get it back on track with our own plan.
3) The Outcome either disappoints us, or puts us in our place...
- When the dust settles and everything comes to an end... it either turns out the way we want it to, or it doesn't. If it does, then we need to realize that things don't have to go our way in order for things to work out the way we want them too. Sometimes, someone else has a better way, a faster way, a more efficient way, a cheaper way, a less painful way, or just plain and simple, a different way. And most of the time, that Someone else is God Himself. However, the temptation we fall into is that we don't accept it...we don't accept that someone else has a better way...and we get angry and resent the person who had a different way. This causes much conflict, anger, dissension, and unnecessary pain. The other side of this is that things may not turn out at all how we planned and we need to accept that God will still lead us through the outcome and that He will make it all work out. Again however, we sometimes don't accept that,... we start thinking "See! I told you! I told you this wasn't gonna work out!" The truth is, it did work out,...just not the way you wanted it.
Don't let anger get the best of you... realize that your plan is not always the best plan, things wont always go the way you planned, and the outcome may or may not still be the same... We all fall into it, we all go through it,...but the sooner we realize it, the sooner we can get over it and lean on God to get us through the outcome, whatever it may be...
Why do we let anger get the best of us? Maybe because of our selfishness,...maybe because of our pride, maybe because of fear... or maybe because we're just human...
What do you think? Why and when does anger get the best of you?
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- Adam J. Castro
